July 27, 2009

  • Second Opinion...

    Well- I went to my long time family doctor to talk to him about my year long issue with my bleeding and all around cycle disorder.
    He listened as I told him the details. After I was finished with everything I wanted to say, he said, "Welcome to getting old".
    HA!
    He seems to agree with my GYN. Not only does he agree, he knows him and he suggested that I go ahead and have my lining removed. He said that at my age that I didn't want to even think about getting into having a baby- as the risks of having a "downs" baby was very high let alone other complications, learning disabilities, and a slew of other things... if I could even get pregnant- after Thomas dying and me finding someone who would want to have a baby...
    You see- this is all extreme situations of course.

    I asked him about cysts, tumors, etc and he said- that with all the tests I have had already and the countless exams, that there would have been something that he could have seen or would have shown up in those tests. He said that he has many patients who have this similar problem and that this is very normal. He joked and said that women are completely screwed up inside! Haa! I AGREE!

    He then said- "Get used to it" and that "I am at the beginning of the end of a normal life"! That I have about 10 years of unstable periods, followed by menopause around 50. WHEN HE SAID 10 years and referenced the number 50 I had a serious out of body moment. HOW DID I GET THIS OLD?!?! I almost wanted to cry.

    So I left the office feeling better that I asked someone who knew me for the past 13 years, and who I truly trust.

    And so... I am going to give that surgery a consideration. BUT right now- at this very moment, the low dose birth control pills I have been taking to clear up my face are actually holding strong- and preventing me from bleeding! WHO would have thought! It has been about 16 days! YeeeHa! (Watch tomorrow I start again! Ugh!)

    Anyhoo- I just thought you would want to mostly-final update... From here on out- I think I am just not going to worry so much and left age sink in!

    Ahhh... age.
    BLORT!

Comments (6)

  • i don't know that the risk of having a downs baby or other disorders is "VERY high". i mean i know it's higher than it would be for a younger woman but......i say all this knowing that i turn 40 in a couple of weeks and will be trying to get pregnant as soon as we get back from jamaica. this makes me think maybe i shouldn't chance it.

  • Indeed- sadly statistics suggest that things decline from age 30- to 35- to 40-and up.

    "a 40-year-old woman is seven times more likely to have a baby with
    Down's syndrome than a woman in her 20s; for every 100,000 babies born
    to women in their 20s, 51 have Down's" etc.

    There is a lot of information out there about it.

    With Thomas having had the BIG SNIP- it is HIGHLY UNLIKELY I will have one- unless as I had mentioned to my doctor- He dies! Where my doctor RAN with that little idea-which made me LAUGH- because he has such funny DARK DRY Humor! HA!

    So no- No kids for me.

    But even if I did- I would seriously give it a second thought knowing these risks...

    Perhaps another CAT would be best!
    HA!

    Less Stretch marks!

    xox

  • @idolatrieartist - scary statistics indeed.

  • My doc told me at age 20 90% of a woman's eggs are normal and at age 40-90% of a woman's eggs are not normal, which is one of the reasons it's sometimes harder to get pregnant & easier to miscarry. But with all of today's technology, lots of people keep pregnancies through the use of anti-labor meds that would have miscarried. Still... I have to be brutally honest... EVERY friend I have who has had a baby after 40 has a child that has SOME sort of learning or other disability. I know a lot of people are doing it, but I have to honestly say that I am not one of those people saying 40 is the new 20 or 30.

    Also would love to add that the book The Wisdom of Menopause (Christian Northrup) is my survival manual for being peri-menopausal. I cannot recommend it enough. I think you would find it really interesting. It is extremely life afirming and hopeful book and much of it focuses on the creative journey many of us embark on during this period of our lives.

    You probably would get a great result from the procedure... but you also might be getting great benefits from the extra estrogen in the pills... there is something to be said about good skin!!!!

    Always here if you need to talk!! xoxo

  • I'm sure it's a relief to hear this from your family doctor!

    But this means I only have about 5 left with ok eggs?! It's going to take me 3 more years to pay off my student loans! How is a person supposed to get everything done?!

  • it's good to get validation, right?

    sorry about ten years of unstability, though.

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